Conscious Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Self Care

Mama Guilt!

Mama Guilt, we ALL do it!

Guilt-  Some mamas say they never live a day without it.  We worry.  Did we give enough of our time today?  Did I feed him well enough?  She hardly slept today and yesterday, is she cutting her day sleeps or was it because I met my girlfriend for a coffee?

We feel overstretched by the demands of a busy household, the juggle of work and our kids.  Spending time with friends and your partner.  There are days where we might think to ourselves ‘is this it? Is this part of some divine plan to have me feeling like a nervous wreck!?’

Motherhood introduces us to so many varied mind states, such extremes of emotions that can feel so unfamiliar and at times disturbing.  We will swing from one to the other.  Revisiting old wounds, and hurts.

We also try to hide all of these feelings due to undulating pressure on ourselves and from our friends and family, society as a whole.  Because we are supposed to feel ‘good’ about being in this place called mamahood.

We are so quick to judge each other too for feeling all of this and some.  Then those mama guilt feelings come up again because we shouldn’t be feeling this way.

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Mindful Parenting

Mindful parenting is an essential part of being a parent. Mindful parenting is a lifelong practice. It is about becoming less attached to the outcome and more mindful of what is unfolding in yours and your children’s lives.

Some core characteristics of mindfulness are:

Observation – Being mindful aims to shift your focus of attention away from thinking to simply observing, observing your thoughts, feelings and the sensations around you.

Being non-judgemental – This is an important aspect to adopt as we all can relate to trying to control what we’re experiencing at times. When being mindful no attempt is made in evaluating your experience or to say ‘that it is good, bad or terrible, right, wrong, or a failure.’

“This takes time to develop because accepting all of one’s experience can be a challenge. But by bringing about a kind, gentle curiosity to your experience is one way of starting to become non-judgemental.”  Quote taken from the Centre for Clinical Intervention.

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Reacting and Responding To Your Toddler

“Two year old’s aren’t terrible — they’re torn.” Janet Lansbury.

Children do not, indeed cannot, make their own way unguided.
There are consistent bodies of research now that specify, that children learn best from setting limits for their behavior.

BUT how do you do that peacefully and positively?  How do you teach your children to consider others, to take turns, to not hit, punch and throw things?

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Connection & conscious thought into your child’s behaviour

A couple of months ago I wrote a heartfelt post about our 4yo daughter.

I was struggling with her behaviour, meltdowns were long & explosive, her sensitivity to everything outside of her control was exhausting, her quest for affection meant that there was NO personal space EVER (I’m also still Breastfeeding our 16mo) in all honesty I was completely worn out, my heart was heavy, and I was at breaking point…

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Anxiety in children

Anxiety is part of our survival instinct. When faced with a threatening situation, our brains and bodies respond by kicking into safety mode. Our adrenalin starts pumping, which helps us get ready to escape the danger.

Fearful and anxious behaviour can be common in children – especially as they come across a new situation and/or experience.  Most children will learn to cope with their different fears and worries.
However, they may need a little extra support when:

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Using Genuine Praise

We made a concious decision as parents to try our best to not put our children in a ‘box,’ starting with “artificial praise” such as ‘good girl! You’ve put all of your toys away!’ We truly believed that by doing so we would be (unintentionally) creating a high standard for our children to be ‘good’ all of the time which then inevitably leads to ‘perfectionism’ & frustration.

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Strong roots produce beautiful leaves

 
“in the Western world we focus far too much on achievement. Parenting is not about achieving and it is not about ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. Instead we can think of parenting as an almost endless series of opportunities to shift our thinking & our behavior to bring about a change in our operating paradigm; our way of viewing the world.” – Dr Bob Jacobs, author of ‘Perfect Parents, Perfect Children’