Conscious Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Self Care

Mama Guilt!

Mama Guilt, we ALL do it!

Guilt-  Some mamas say they never live a day without it.  We worry.  Did we give enough of our time today?  Did I feed him well enough?  She hardly slept today and yesterday, is she cutting her day sleeps or was it because I met my girlfriend for a coffee?

We feel overstretched by the demands of a busy household, the juggle of work and our kids.  Spending time with friends and your partner.  There are days where we might think to ourselves ‘is this it? Is this part of some divine plan to have me feeling like a nervous wreck!?’

Motherhood introduces us to so many varied mind states, such extremes of emotions that can feel so unfamiliar and at times disturbing.  We will swing from one to the other.  Revisiting old wounds, and hurts.

We also try to hide all of these feelings due to undulating pressure on ourselves and from our friends and family, society as a whole.  Because we are supposed to feel ‘good’ about being in this place called mamahood.

We are so quick to judge each other too for feeling all of this and some.  Then those mama guilt feelings come up again because we shouldn’t be feeling this way.

Conscious Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Infant care, Self Care, Toddlers

Mindful Parenting

Mindful parenting is an essential part of being a parent. Mindful parenting is a lifelong practice. It is about becoming less attached to the outcome and more mindful of what is unfolding in yours and your children’s lives.

Some core characteristics of mindfulness are:

Observation – Being mindful aims to shift your focus of attention away from thinking to simply observing, observing your thoughts, feelings and the sensations around you.

Being non-judgemental – This is an important aspect to adopt as we all can relate to trying to control what we’re experiencing at times. When being mindful no attempt is made in evaluating your experience or to say ‘that it is good, bad or terrible, right, wrong, or a failure.’

“This takes time to develop because accepting all of one’s experience can be a challenge. But by bringing about a kind, gentle curiosity to your experience is one way of starting to become non-judgemental.”  Quote taken from the Centre for Clinical Intervention.