The intention behind this series is to shine a light on some beautiful, inspiring and connected mamas and what Post Partum looked, or looks like for them.
I feel very passionately about this vital period in a new mamas life so i wanted to shed an honest and authentic light on it by asking a few beautiful mamas to shed the light and sometimes the dark side, on this vulnerable and transformational period in their life.
Meet Hayley, mama to three darling daughters, a photographer capturing all things raw, earthy and breathtaking. Her authenticity and earthy vibe is inspiring and I am SO excited to share with you a beautiful account of her ‘Unique Post Partum.’
Name and Age: Hayley 29
Children/Infants name and age: Luna 4 , Mili 2.5 , Inca 2 wks
Relationship to self or another: Married.
How has becoming a parent changed you?
Becoming a parent has changed me so much in so many ways. It has shown me how strong & powerful myself and women in general are or can be. I feel as though I was made for this and it’s where I am meant to be. It has rattled so much in myself so much so from my own childhood and upbringing, raising daughters has me healing my own past along with opening my mind to a whole new aspect of life. To teach my daughters how strong, worthy and powerful they are!! How special is that?!
In those first few weeks Post Partum, what did it look like for you?
My first few weeks with my last babe who is currently 2.5 weeks has actually been amazing!! Soaking in newborn bliss, consisting of not leaving my room, breastfeeding and watching her sleep then repeat. Along with nourishing myself with whole foods and consuming my placenta for a boost of energy and nourishment .
How did you feel?
This time around I actually have felt amazing!! Putting that down to my beautiful birth (having home birthed this time around ) and everything just going so slow, natural and there for a smooth transition into postpartum. Being more aware of how important post partum really is, so by nourishing myself giving myself time to just be present and soak her up. I also did raw placenta smoothies for the first five days post and I feel that had me feeling amazing also my AMAZING midwife.
Though it definitely is not as easy to have your feet up once hubby was back to work with two other little fairies to chase after but just staying mindful has helped a great deal .
My previous post partum periods with my two other daughters was not as smooth and joyous, I put a lot down to birth experience and birth trauma. No baby blues here this time around!
Did you feel pressure from friends, family or society in general as to how you ‘should’ parent your new baby? If so how did gently handle that sort of pressure?
Yes even though this was my third daughter the pressure is always there, the questions etc. But by now I am comfortable in my decisions to baby wear, co sleep, home birth etc. So just staying firm in my decisions left no room for negative comments. Being confident in my choices helps soooo much more and a husband that is on the same page. I was able to not let any negative comments effect me.
Post partum care is EVERYTHING after. It is skin to skin, it is allowing your new baby the space to latch onto your breast in its own time, it is establishing a breastfeeding relationship, it is learning to wrap your baby, settle your baby and lotssss of nappy changes!
What was the transition into parenting like for both you and your partner within your relationship?
My first baby was of course challenging, was a whole new world, a whole new life we were accountable for- she depended on us solely. But I think all the conversations prior to her earth side and us being on the same page helped sooo much. Making sure we still had our time to chat and leave communication flowing. I must admit it was hard to not resent him a little for awhile as you watch him sleep and rest and even just relax. But I was honest with him and would joke about it. Trying not to get caught up in it all. I knew I wanted to co sleep and breastfeed her and remembering just how important that was to me kept us grounded. Third time around I feel like it’s all just smooth like she has slided right on into our family .
Did you make time for YOU during your Post Partum period? If so, what was your favourite thing to do to get back to YOU?
Yes this time around, I gave myself time to just be. Just be present stop the voices telling me I should be doing something else whether that be cleaning ( having the girls creating mess of course they had a bit of cabin fever so alot of chaos ) and was gentle to myself being present and aware that it was ok to ask for help from my husband to help with bringing me food and allowing him to care for us and myself not being in any rush to be anywhere. Wholesome food was a big one ( This time around I was very blessed to have a bunch of friends cook and prepare treats and drop over to help take a load off, ever so grateful to those mamas ). Postpartum baths.
If you could go back to your gorgeous pregnant self, what loving, nurturing support would you offer her?
Just relax soak it all in ( it goes way to fast ). Give time to yourself be present take things slow. This time around I feel like I did just that I took my previous advice from my previous births and did just that, soak it all in and give back to myself, nourish my body and mind.
Post Partum & Infant Connection eWorkshop
Are you seeking a deeper knowledge of what to expect within your Post Partum period? Do you crave a supportive, non judgmental environment? Are you ready to be informed and to feel empowered on your new and exciting journey into parenthood?