Discipline- one word that makes most gentle parents cringe. Discipline is not a dirty word. In fact the very definition of discipline in the old English language referred to a branch of knowledge, & in Latin Disciplina it means to teach.
Too often we forget that discipline really means to TEACH not to punish. Empathising, connecting, communicating and PATIENCE the core of gentle discipline. We as parents need patience in order to be present with our children and in teaching them.
‘Children need confident adults in their lives, parents who, when it comes to teaching the basic rules & values in their lives are willing to be persistent. Parents who understand that by establishing & enforcing clear limits rather then being “mean” provide children with a sense of security.’ Mary Sherry Kurcinka,Ed.D ‘Raising your spirited child.’
Researchers tell us that a harsh, rigid approach will increase behavior problems, which may lead to aggression.
Every child deserves respect, empathy, and loving understanding. When we are treated this way our heart sings because we feel understood. Our children deserve the same.
The Three C’s of gentle discipline
- CONNECTION: Affection, empathy, imaginative play, shared interests.
- COMMUNICATION: Listening, reflecting, validating, sharing, discussing.
- CO-OPERATION: Inviting, encouraging, interacting, helping, supporting.