Attachment Parenting, Co-Sleeping, Earthway Parenting, Infant care, Post Partum

Parenting your baby during the night is not about a set of rules and sleep strategies.

Parenting your baby during the night is not about a set of rules and sleep strategies.  Parenting your baby at night time is all about connection.

As a new parent I was shocked to find myself feeding my new baby literally around the clock.  Eight weeks into being a new mama I was desperate for sleep.  I called in the big guns, a local midwife!  ‘The reason your baby will not sleep is due to her sleep associations.  Your baby has a dummy AND you breastfeed her to sleep.’  These were her exact words stated to me as I was crying and feeding my eight week old daughter. To sleep. 

Conscious Parenting, Earthway Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Toddlers

SIX ways to reconnect with your toddler

If you are a parent or if you have ever interacted with a child between the ages of 18 months and 3 years, then you most likely have witnessed many of the milestone behaviour within autonomy versus shame and doubt stage from Erik Erikson’s stage of psycho social development, such as wanting to dress themselves, feed themselves with their fingers, or you may have even experienced a struggle trying to hold them amongst a pool of tears because they can’t and won’t  find their drink bottle (even though you know that they haven’t even started looking for it and it’s on the kitchen bench!).

Attachment Parenting, Baby Wearing, Co-Sleeping, Earthway Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Infant care, Post Partum

Expectations

Expectations.

We all have them.

Do your expectations as an adult meet up with your expectations that YOU have for your baby? Your child?

Expectations as an adult tend to go a little like this… To be loved.  To be respected.  To be acknowledged and also nurtured.

Why then do we feel that our baby or older children would not also have these same expectations?

I ask this because I feel that some of us are still on the same ‘old school’ page of Crying It Out (CIO).  With our little people we may feel even that punishment is more sufficient instead of teaching.  Perhaps we have an expectation that our children should ‘respect our authority’ then we will return the favour and in turn ‘respect them!’

I know that this might jostle a few feathers and I am ok with that, because if it does, then I am SO pleased that you are here.  I am so excited that you are using the new year as an opportunity to take stock, take action and create change within your home, after all this is where the magic really happens..

Attachment Parenting, Conscious Parenting, Gentle Parenting

Holiday Vibes!

 

Is anyone else feeling the overwhelm of the year coming to a close?

Parties, dinners, graduations, the organisation of trips away, shopping, shopping, shopping…

Are your children feeling ‘off track and stressed out?’

Could it be they’re reflecting the negative energy you’re putting out?

I know as a mama I’m having my fair share of ‘moments’ as the holidays rapidly approach, and I know that my children are vibing off of that too.  We are all so ready for the holidays to begin whilst also being aware that, ‘this too shall pass.’  And it does pass, seemingly more and more quickly as the years go by.

This time of year is a wrap up of all that has come in the months before while at the same time often an avalanche of chaos, stress and anxiety around the numerous things we need to get done, to attend, to buy, to cook, to clean, item after item that needs to be handled and ticked off our many, many holiday ‘to do’ lists.  This can create tension within homes, anger around finances being stretched, and anxiety around events with young children.

Conscious Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Self Care

Mama Guilt!

Mama Guilt, we ALL do it!

Guilt-  Some mamas say they never live a day without it.  We worry.  Did we give enough of our time today?  Did I feed him well enough?  She hardly slept today and yesterday, is she cutting her day sleeps or was it because I met my girlfriend for a coffee?

We feel overstretched by the demands of a busy household, the juggle of work and our kids.  Spending time with friends and your partner.  There are days where we might think to ourselves ‘is this it? Is this part of some divine plan to have me feeling like a nervous wreck!?’

Motherhood introduces us to so many varied mind states, such extremes of emotions that can feel so unfamiliar and at times disturbing.  We will swing from one to the other.  Revisiting old wounds, and hurts.

We also try to hide all of these feelings due to undulating pressure on ourselves and from our friends and family, society as a whole.  Because we are supposed to feel ‘good’ about being in this place called mamahood.

We are so quick to judge each other too for feeling all of this and some.  Then those mama guilt feelings come up again because we shouldn’t be feeling this way.

‘Your Unique Post Partum’ Interview Series

Your Unique Post Partum Episode SIXTEEN

The intention behind this series is to shine a light on some beautiful, inspiring and connected mamas and what Post Partum looked, or looks like for them.

I feel very passionately about this vital period in a new mamas life so I wanted to shed an honest and authentic light on it by asking a few beautiful mamas to shed the light and sometimes the dark side, on this vulnerable and transformational period in their life.

Meet Carly, a beautifully down to earth mama bear of two little cubs.  They live in the mountains always grounding themselves with yoga.  Her ‘Unique Post Partum’ is beautifully written with true authenticity whilst honoring herself as a new mama to her most recent blessing but also as a mother to her eldest daughter.  I am honored to have her share her ‘Unique Post Partum’ with you all.

 

Earthway Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Toddlers

Tune into your Toddler

If you are a parent or if you have ever interacted with children between the ages of 18 months and 3 years, then you most likely have witnessed many of the milestone behaviour within autonomy versus shame and doubt stage from Erik Erikson’s stage of psychosocial development, such as wanting to dress themselves, feed themselves with their fingers, you may have even struggled to hold them amongst a pool of tears because they can’t and won’t find their drink bottle (even though you know that they haven’t even started looking for it and it’s on the kitchen bench!) It is at this point in development that young children will begin to express a greater need for independence and control over themselves as well as the world around them. According to Erikson, children at this stage are focused on developing a greater sense of self-control.

Your toddler at this age is gradually wanting and yearning for an increase in their independence they want greater control over what they are doing and how they are going to do it. Toddlers that are in the thick of this developmental stage will often feel the need to do EVERYTHING independently!

Things such as picking out their own clothes, deciding what they will and won’t eat, toys and games that they want to play.  This can create SO much frustration for many parents and understandably so, you want your toddler to look super CUTE but instead, they look like a red-hot MESS!!  The simple fact is, this is not only an important milestone in development for your little one but an essential one, for your toddler they are developing their personality further, their sense of style and all whilst creating personal autonomy.

‘Your Unique Post Partum’ Interview Series

Your Unique Post Partum Episode FIFTEEN

The intention behind this series is to shine a light on some beautiful, inspiring and connected mamas and what Post Partum looked, or looks like for them.

I feel very passionately about this vital period in a new mamas life so I wanted to shed an honest and authentic light on it by asking a few beautiful mamas to shed the light and sometimes the dark side, on this vulnerable and transformational period in their life.

Meet Sara, a wonderful single mama to three. She is a connected birth and post natal Doula as well as a childbirth educator.  Located in the divine Macedon Ranges she supports women in the Ranges as well as North West Melbourne. Once you read her feature you’ll understand where her passion comes from.  She speaks with honesty and if I’m truthful a little heartache.. I am honored to have her share her ‘Unique Post Partum’ with you

 

Attachment Parenting, Co-Sleeping, Infant care

A gentle approach to sleep and settling for your new baby

As new parents you will find yourselves shocked to the core in the realisation that yes, your new baby will feed around the clock. The average new baby will sleep for 16 out of 24 hours BUT all babies are very unique. You may find that your newborn will sleep up to 19 hours or as little as only 8.

You need not worry though because it is not about ‘how may hours’ he or she will sleep, you may simply have either a wakeful baby or a sleepy one. A cat napper or a baby that leisurely sleeps the day and night away (now wouldn’t that be lovely!).

In those first few weeks post-partum your new baby will wake, feed and then fall asleep again. Only to wake no more then 2-3 hours later, yes, for yet another feed! As your new baby grows so does their appetite, you will find that your baby will want bigger feeds as opposed to more frequent feeds, they will tend to be more active between feeds also, which will then (fingers crossed!) allow for deeper and longer sleeps!

Your Infant needs a loving, responsive interaction always. This is an essential foundation  for connection and building trust.  Your touch is just as important and as fundamental as the food that you provide for them.

Earthway Parenting, ‘Your Unique Post Partum’ Interview Series

Your Unique Post Partum Episode FOURTEEN

The intention behind this series is to shine a light on some beautiful, inspiring and connected mamas and what Post Partum looked, or looks like for them.

I feel very passionately about this vital period in a new mamas life so I wanted to shed an honest and authentic light on it by asking a few beautiful mamas to shed the light and sometimes the dark side, on this vulnerable and transformational period in their life.

Meet Maggie, a new mama to a beautiful baby boy, Jagger.  Voice over Artist and Actress and in the midst of creating an inspiring blog for mamas to relate to, the World over! She’s down to Earth, with a great sense of humor!  I am so honored to have her share her very new and ‘Unique Post Partum’ here with you all.